Love a Muslim Today


In a 2015 survey, most Americans (83 percent) said they knew little or nothing about the religious practices and beliefs of Muslims. And yet nearly half said, “the values of Islam are at odds with American values and way of life.”

That adds up to a lot of Americans deciding Islam is bad while knowing little or nothing about it. It reminds me of the first time we took our children to a Thai restaurant. They were certain the food would be terrible until they took the first bite.

Nearly half of U.S. adults say they don’t personally know a Muslim. A majority say they seldom or never have conversations with Muslims. And yet many are willing to paint all Muslims with a broad and negative brush based on the behavior of extremists most Muslims would say don’t represent the faith. Not surprisingly, there’s a double standard: Three in four Americans say self-identified Christians who commit violent acts in the name of Christianity “are not really Christian,” yet many of those people will not apply the same logic to those who commit acts of violence in the name of Islam.

But they should. How would you like to be lumped with and judged by the most extremist people you share an affiliation with?

The man responsible for killing 168 people and injuring more than 600 in the Oklahoma City bombing was a veteran of the U.S. Army. Are all veterans just like him?

The man who was welcomed into a Charleston Bible study group only to kill nine members was a Christian. He was motivated by (and his views were defended by) the Council of Conservative Citizens, which claims to stand for Christian beliefs and values. Are all Christians just like them?

The man who killed 43 people, including 38 children, in the deadliest mass murder in a school in U.S. history was a Midwesterner, a farmer, a Catholic, and a member of his school board. Is everyone in those categories just like him?

If you don’t want people who know little or nothing about you and have never spoken with you deciding what you’re all about, don’t do it to others. Rather than categorizing people into friends, enemies, and strangers, try loving everyone. If it’s possible to hate people you don’t know, then it’s certainly possible to love people you don’t know. Try it.

Dwight D. Eisenhower said, “No people on earth can be held, as a people, to be an enemy, for all humanity shares the common hunger for peace and fellowship and justice.”

If you share that hunger for peace, fellowship, and justice, then start by offering it. Talk to people different from you, and honor your shared humanity. Learn about them with an open mind and an open heart. If you’re afraid, love can handle that too. 1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.” Try it. And try Thai food too – it’s delicious.


  1. I absolutely love this: “If it’s possible to hate people you don’t know, then it’s certainly possible to love people you don’t know. Try it.”

    It’s like an “I dare you” statement where everyone wins for the attempt.


  2. You do a wonderful job of playing on the inconsistencies of some people’s thinking from food to mass shootings. I wonder if we are able to create these distinctions among “Christians,” veterans and the like before practicing Muslims because they are closer to what we look like and think than our own misconceptions regarding the Islamic faith. In other words, we are distinguishing amongst ourselves more positively than those who are different than we are. We sugar coat ourselves; we are stuck in one type of food; thank you for asking us to try something new!


  3. Wonderful post. The same can be said of so many differences which breed contempt or hatred. Being gay, I have found that I can open doors to understanding once people understand that my family is just like theirs except we are two moms instead of a parent of each sex. It is fear of the unknown that makes us “other” people based on their differences. Thank you for making that point


  4. Well-said. Thanks for reminding me that we certainly don’t lack for home-grown terrorists, and they say nothing about Americans en masse.

    Until last year, I had never known a Muslim. Then I received, unasked, a beautiful hard-bound Quran and called the organization that sent it. I spoke with a woman who had converted to Islam from Christianity. Naturally, I asked her about that. I assumed that she had married a Muslim, but that was wrong. She had converted to Islam for the freedom it offered women! She proceeded to quote me the Pauline injunctions against women teaching/speaking in the church and the restrictions upon dress. We had a very good 1 hour long talk about that, and many other things. Very enlightening – viewing your faith from another’s perspective, especially that one!

    Interesting that we used the same verse in our posts. It is just so appropriate for these times. I love your logic: if it’s possible to hate people you don’t know, then it’s possible to love them as well. I think we are called to lead from love, then see what happens. After all, we can always take back our hate if we really want it, right?

    I think I’d rather start with love.


  5. Deborah
    The comparisons were good. In today’s world people are so quick to judge, urged on by the media with vicious attacks and judgment. I don’t know why we can’t just all get along. Love is so much easier if we would just try it once in awhile.

    Nice post.


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